Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Secondary Factors

What do you do if you’ve got to make a choice between two paths you want to take? How are you supposed to choose? Is there a right choice and a wrong choice? A better choice or a worse choice? How do you decide between good and great? What if you have more than one dream path? How do you close the door on a dream even if it’s to follow another dream? Here are some methods to help you pick between two paths.
Use Secondary Factors
Sometimes you can’t compare the dreams directly. They’re both just too good. They are both something you’ve always wanted to do. So move on to secondary factors. Make a list of the other factors you want in your life, and compare the dreams to those. Here is an example:

Dream 1: Start an online magazine on your favorite topic
Dream 2: Lead exotic excursions to other countries

Make a list of the secondary factors that are important to you. For example:
  • Income potential
  • Free Time
  • Fun
  • Opportunities for Growth
  • Networking with interesting people
  • Easy to start now
  • Inexpensive to run
Then rate each dream on these secondary factors on a scale of 1 – 10. If there is a certain secondary factor that is a lot more important than the others, (i.e. it has to be fun), then give that factor more weight, like multiply it by 2. Tally up the points at the end and see which of your dreams provides the highest score on your secondary factors.
It doesn’t mean one dream is better than another, or more exciting than the other, just that based on the secondary factors, one will provide the whole package better than the other.
Do One First and Then the Other
It’s okay to have more than one dream in life, and it’s okay to follow your dreams in succession. Look at your two dreams and see if there is one that you can do now while saving the other one for later. Maybe now’s the time to start an online magazine on your favorite topic, and once that’s earning a high income and is on autopilot, you could segue into leading exotic excursions to other countries.

Or perhaps you could have your life of adventure while you’re still young enough to climb machu picchu, and then settle down and run an online magazine from home.
There’s no law that says you can only follow one dream in life.
Combine Your Dreams
Maybe you can have your cake and eat it too. Maybe there’s a way to combine your dreams. To continue with our example, what if you started an online magazine about exotic travel locations, and took people on excursions then wrote about them for your magazine? In that case, you could fulfill both your dreams simultaneously. You could even hire other writers to contribute articles about their favorite exotic locations, and you could plan events in unusual places where your readers could meet.

I successfully combined two of my dreams: helping and counseling others, and the paranormal. I got my degree in psychology but didn’t want to use classic counseling techniques. My intuitive abilities and love of the paranormal gave me the ability to provide intuitive counseling which is a much faster and more effective method of helping others. I found a way to merge my two desires into one career.
Trust Your Feelings
Tune in to your intuition. What does your gut tell you? First imagine you’ve decided on one of your dreams. Imagine what it’s like to actually be living that dream. Does it feel good? Or is there something about the dream that doesn’t feel right? Now tune in to the other dream. Feel it. Try it on for size. Imagine you are already doing it. How does it feel? See if one dream feels better than the other.

Also check to see where you feel relief and where you feel regret. Imagine someone came along and said, “You must choose Dream A.” Do you feel relieved and happy or do you feel sad and regretful about losing the other dream? Then imagine someone said, “You must choose Dream B.” Relief or regret? Sometimes our gut knows better than our mind.
By the time you choose your dream it should feel fantastic. You should have no misgivings or regrets about the path you’re choosing. It should even be high on secondary factors. It should excite and motivate you. If it doesn’t, then maybe it’s not the dream you thought it was. Think of what else you’ve always wanted to achieve or do and run it through these filters again.
Once you’ve got your dream in mind, run with it. Don’t stop until you’ve achieved it. Enjoy the process, and enjoy the success! If joy on your path ever begins to wane, find a new dream and take a new path. Keep following your dreams and you will be happy!


1. When someone lies to you, it teaches you that things are not always what they seem. The truth is often far beneath the surface. Look beyond the masks people wear if you want to know what is in their hearts. Remove your own masks to let people know who you really are.
2. When someone steals from you it teaches you that nothing is forever. Always appreciate what you have. You never know when you might lose it. Never take your friends or family for granted, because today and sometimes only this very moment is the only guarantee you may have.
3. When someone inflicts injury upon you, it teaches you that the human state is a very fragile one. Protect and take care of your body as best as you can, it’s the one thing that you are sure to have forever.
4. When someone mocks you, it teaches you that no two people are alike. When you encounter people who are different from you, do not judge them by how they look or act, instead base it on the contents of what is in their hearts.
5. When someone breaks your heart, it teaches you that loving someone does not always mean that the person will love you back. But don’t turn your back on love, because when you find the right person, the joy that one person brings you will make up for all of your past hurts. Times a thousand fold.
6. When someone holds a grudge against you, it teaches you that everyone makes mistakes. When you are wronged, the most virtuous thing you can do is forgive the offender without pretense. Forgiving those who have hurt us is often the most difficult and painful of life’s experiences, but it is also the most courageous thing a person can do.
7. When a loved one is unfaithful to you, it teaches you that resisting temptation is man’s greatest challenge. Be vigilant in your resistance against all temptations. By doing so, you will be rewarded with an enduring sense of satisfaction far greater than the temporary pleasure by which you were tempted.
8. When someone cheats you, it teaches you that greed is the root of all evil. Aspire to make your dreams come true, no matter how lofty they may be. Do not feel guilty about your success, but never let an obsession with achieving your goals lead you to engage in malevolent activities.
9. When someone ridicules you, it teaches you that nobody is perfect. Accept people for their merits and be tolerant of their flaws. Do not ever reject someone for imperfections over which they have no control.
10. When someone loves us, it teaches us love, kindness, charity, honesty, humility, forgiveness, acceptance, and all of these can counteract all the evil in the world. For every good deed, there is one evil deed. Man alone has the power to control the balance between good and evil, but because the lessons of love are not taught often enough, the power is too often abused.

When you enter someone’s life, whether by plan, chance or coincidence, consider what your lesson will be. Will you teach love or a harsh lesson of reality? When you die, will your life have resulted in more loving or more hurting? More comfort or more pain? More joy or more sadness? Each one of us has the power over the balance of the love in the world. Use it wisely!

These are definitely my 2012 Resolutions!

  1. Start spending time with the right people. – These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways.  They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.
  2. Start facing your problems head on. – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them.  Problems will not disappear unless you take action.  Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done.  It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch.  These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run.
  3. Start being honest with yourself about everything. – Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed.  Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become.  Be honest with every aspect of your life, always.  Because you are the one person you can forever count on.  Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are.  Once you do, you’ll have a better understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there.
  4. Start making your own happiness a priority. – Your needs matter.  If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself.  Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you.  And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.
  5. Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly. – Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are.  Be yourself.  Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else.  Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms.  Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it. 
  6. Start noticing and living in the present. – Right now is a miracle.  Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you.  Right now is life.  So stop thinking about how great things will be in the future.  Stop dwelling on what did or didn’t happen in the past.  Learn to be in the ‘here and now’ and experience life as it’s happening.  Appreciate the world for the beauty that it holds, right now.
  7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you. – Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping stones of progress.  If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re not learning.  Take risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and try again.  Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and improving.  Significant achievements are almost invariably realized at the end of a long road of failures.  One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet.
  8. Start being more polite to yourself. – If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?  The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.  You must love who you are or no one else will.
  9. Start enjoying the things you already have. – The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life – a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc.  Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you’ll likely have a new destination in mind.  You’ll end up spending your whole life working toward something new without ever stopping to enjoy the things you have now.  So take a quiet moment every morning when you first awake to appreciate where you are and what you already have.
  10. Start creating your own happiness. – If you are waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’re missing out.  Smile because you can.  Choose happiness.  Be the change you want to see in the world.  Be happy with who you are now, and let your positivity inspire your journey into tomorrow.  Happiness is often found when and where you decide to seek it.  If you look for happiness within the opportunities you have, you will eventually find it.  But if you constantly look for something else, unfortunately, you’ll find that too. 
  11. Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. – In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance.  You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work.  Most of the time you just have to go for it!  And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be.  Either you succeed or you learn something.  Win-Win.
  12. Start believing that you’re ready for the next step. – You are ready!  Think about it.  You have everything you need right now to take the next small, realistic step forward.  So embrace the opportunities that come your way, and accept the challenges – they’re gifts that will help you to grow.
  13. Start entering new relationships for the right reasons. – Enter new relationships with dependable, honest people who reflect the person you are and the person you want to be.  Choose friends you are proud to know, people you admire, who show you love and respect – people who reciprocate your kindness and commitment.  And pay attention to what people do, because a person’s actions are much more important than their words or how others represent them.
  14. Start giving new people you meet a chance. – It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made.  People and priorities change.  As some relationships fade others will grow.  Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work.  Trust your judgment.  Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory.  Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.
  15. Start competing against an earlier version of yourself. – Be inspired by others, appreciate others, learn from others, but know that competing against them is a waste of time.  You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself.  You are competing to be the best you can be.  Aim to break your own personal records.
  16. Start cheering for other people’s victories. – Start noticing what you like about others and tell them.  Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places.  So be happy for those who are making progress.  Cheer for their victories.  Be thankful for their blessings, openly.  What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.
  17. Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations. – When things are hard, and you feel down, take a few deep breaths and look for the silver lining – the small glimmers of hope.  Remind yourself that you can and will grow stronger from these hard times.  And remain conscious of your blessings and victories – all the things in your life that are right.  Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t.
  18. Start forgiving yourself and others. – We’ve all been hurt by our own decisions and by others.  And while the pain of these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too long.  We relive the pain over and over and have a hard time letting go.  Forgiveness is the remedy.  It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened.  It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.
  19. Start helping those around you. – Care about people.  Guide them if you know a better way.  The more you help others, the more they will want to help you.  Love and kindness begets love and kindness.  And so on and so forth.
  20. Start listening to your own inner voice. – If it helps, discuss your ideas with those closest to you, but give yourself enough room to follow your own intuition.  Be true to yourself.  Say what you need to say.  Do what you know in your heart is right.
  21. Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks.– Slow down.  Breathe.  Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and move forward with clarity and purpose.  When you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity.  These short breaks will help you regain your sanity and reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.
  22. Start noticing the beauty of small moments. – Instead of waiting for the big things to happen – marriage, kids, big promotion, winning the lottery – find happiness in the small things that happen every day.  Little things like having a quiet cup of coffee in the early morning, or the delicious taste and smell of a homemade meal, or the pleasure of sharing something you enjoy with someone else, or holding hands with your partner.  Noticing these small pleasures on a daily basis makes a big difference in the quality of your life.
  23. Start accepting things when they are less than perfect. – Remember, ‘perfect’ is the enemy of ‘good.’  One of the biggest challenges for people who want to improve themselves and improve the world is learning to accept things as they are.  Sometimes it’s better to accept and appreciate the world as it is, and people as they are, rather than to trying to make everything and everyone conform to an impossible ideal.  No, you shouldn’t accept a life of mediocrity, but learn to love and value things when they are less than perfect.
  24. Start working toward your goals every single day. – Remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.  Whatever it is you dream about, start taking small, logical steps every day to make it happen.  Get out there and DO something!  The harder you work the luckier you will become.  While many of us decide at some point during the course of our lives that we want to answer our calling, only an astute few of us actually work on it.  By ‘working on it,’ I mean consistently devoting oneself to the end result. .
  25. Start being more open about how you feel. – If you’re hurting, give yourself the necessary space and time to hurt, but be open about it.  Talk to those closest to you.  Tell them the truth about how you feel.  Let them listen.  The simple act of getting things off your chest and into the open is your first step toward feeling good again.
  26. Start taking full accountability for your own life. – Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them.  Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will.  And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own.  You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life.  And no, it won’t always be easy.  Every person has a stack of obstacles in front of them.  But you must take accountability for your situation and overcome these obstacles.  Choosing not to is choosing a lifetime of mere existence.
  27. Start actively nurturing your most important relationships. – Bring real, honest joy into your life and the lives of those you love by simply telling them how much they mean to you on a regular basis.  You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people.  Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.  Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of.
  28. Start concentrating on the things you can control. – You can’t change everything, but you can always change something.  Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation.  Invest your energy in the things you can control, and act on them now.
  29. Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes. – The mind must believe it CAN do something before it is capable of actually doing it.  The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.  Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones.  Regardless of how a situation seems, focus on what you DO WANT to happen, and then take the next positive step forward.  No, you can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can control how you react to things.  Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects – whether or not you’re happy and successful in the long run depends greatly on which aspects you focus on.
  30. Start noticing how wealthy you are right now. – Henry David Thoreau once said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.”  Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective.  You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.  You didn’t go to sleep outside.  You had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning.  You hardly broke a sweat today.  You didn’t spend a minute in fear.  You have access to clean drinking water.  You have access to medical care.  You have access to the Internet.  You can read.  Some might say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.

Thursday, December 1, 2011

If you forget me

“I want you to know
one thing.

You know how this is:
if I look
at the crystal moon, at the red branch
of the slow autumn at my window,
if I touch
near the fire
the impalpable ash
or the wrinkled body of the log,
everything carries me to you,
as if everything that exists,
aromas, light, metals,
were little boats
that sail
toward those isles of yours that wait for me.

Well, now,
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.

If suddenly
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I shall already have forgotten you.

If you think it long and mad,
the wind of banners
that passes through my life,
and you decide
to leave me at the shore
of the heart where I have roots,
that on that day,
at that hour,
I shall lift my arms
and my roots will set off
to seek another land.

if each day,
each hour,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
ah my love, ah my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved,
and as long as you live it will be in your arms
without leaving mine”

Friday, November 25, 2011

I Wish

I wish I were free to hold your hands
And say that I am yours,
I wish I had a chance
To express the feelings I want you to know,
I wish I had the courage
To prove that it's you where I belong,
I wish I had the power to love
To have you forevermore....

I wish I could hug  you
So you can feel my heart,
I wish I could kiss you
So you will know how much i care,
I wish I could look straight to your eyes
So you can read my mind
I wish I could stay beside you
And whisper that... I love you!


I know it's over but as I sit
In this meadow of melancholy,
Still can't escape
From your shadow.

I can still recall,
The way you take hold of
These hands of mine
There's the throb that
Flows here in my SENSES

How perfect
My world was....
With you....

Now I forgot
How to lead my life
This is track
Nobody else could come
To feel the essence of life
....Just the way I had,
With you...

Isang Paglilimi

Mahirap magmahal
Ng isang taong kaylapit
Ngunit kaylayo sa paningin
Katabi mo subalit
'Di mo maaaring salingin
O halikan, yakapi't mahalin
Na ang magagawa mo lamang
Siya ay tanawin
At sabihing mahal mo siya
Sa pamamagitan ng hangin.

Mahirap ipaglaban
Ang pag-ibig na tapat
Kung sa pag-unawa ng lahat
Ay salat
Gaano man karubdob
Pagmamahal sa kanya
Kung ang buong mundo 
Ay tutol sayo
Para ka ring nangarap
Umasam, naghangad ng
Isang bagay na
Malayong matupad.

Ngunit magkaganoon man
Isipin mo na lamang
ang lahat ng bagay
Malaki o maliit man
Ay mayroong katapusan
Maghintay, maghintay,
Maghintay ka lamang
Para sa katuparan ng
Pag-ibig mong asam.


Para akong pulubi na nanglilimos
ng pag-ibig mula sa'yo.
Para akong batang musmos
na humihingi ng pagmamahal mula
Limusan mo sana ako
kahit kaunting pagtingin
nang ang pag-ibig at buhay ko ay
maging makabuluhan.
Sa bawat limos na ibibigay mo sa
akin ay tatanawin kong utang na loob
At dadalhin ko hanggang sa kabilang
Muli, palimos.

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Wanted: Perfect Love

Kapag nagmahal ka, siguraduhin mong alam mo ang mga possible consequences na mangyayari dahil sa pagmamahal na yun. Wag kang maging makasarili hangga’t sa maaari. Masaya naman magmahal, kaya lang lagi ng kakambal nito ang sakit, sakripisyo at mga pagsubok. Hindi mawawala ang mga ito sa larangan ng pagmamahal.
Kapag nagmahal ka, susugal ka talaga. Wala naman kasing nakakaalam kung sya na ba talaga hanggang sa huli. Meron nga dyan, sobrang tagal na ng relasyon pero nauuwi rin sa hiwalayan. Kahit kasal na nga diba naghihiwalay pa rin? Nasa diskarte na lang yan kung hanggang saan mo kayang isipin na sya na talaga ang gusto mong makasama habang buhay. Kung hindi mo na maisip ang bagay na ito, ibig sabihin wala na ang pagmamahal. Kaya sumuko ka na lang dahil mukhang bankrupt ka na.
Kapag nagmahal ka, wag na wag kang maniniwala sa salitang forever. Kapag naniwala ka sa salitang yan sobrang sakit ang mararamdaman mo. Para sa akin,yung mga taong matatapang lang ang nagkakaroon ng forever. Minsan pa nga ay iilan lang talaga sa kanila ang nagkakaroon nun. Handa kasi silang patunayan ang forever na yan. Minsan na akong naging matapang, pero ang napatunayan ko lang ay hindi totoo ang forever. Yun lang.
Kapag nagmahal ka, wag kang mag promise. Gawin mo na lang yung nararapat. Kapag nangako ka kasi walang kasiguraduhan yun. Hindi mo hawak ang oras at panahon. Hindi mo rin mape-predict ang future kaya wag kang magbitaw ng mga pangako sa taong mahal mo. Dahil ang lahat ay nagbabago habang tumatagal. Kaya posible na magbago rin ang ihip ng hangin at tangayin na lamang ang mga pangakong binitawan mo at maglalaho na lang ito ng parang bula.
Kapag nagmahal ka, bigyan mo naman ng 101% effort. Ang ibig sabihin ko lang dito, gawin mo ang lahat ng makakaya mo para magtagal ang relasyon ninyo at wag na wag nyong kalimutan na isali ang diyos sa relasyon nyo. Para sa araw-araw ng buhay nyo eh may gagabay sa relasyon ninyong dalawa at sya ang bahalang magpatatag nito. Kung kasama nyo palagi ang diyos, hindi sya magsasawang tulungan kayo sa oras na hindi na kayo nagkakaintindihan. Ang diyos ang magsisilbing taga ayos ng gusot nyo sa isa’t isa. Sya lang ang makakapitan nyo kapag nagkaproblema kayo.
Kapag nagmahal ka, gagawin mo ang lahat para maiparamdam sa taong mahal mo kung gaano mo sya kamahal. Hinding hindi ka susuko sa kanya. Iintindihin mo sya sa mga gusto nya. Kakayanin mong mag-adjust sa pagkakaiba ninyo at tatanggapin mo ang lahat sa kanya dahil mahal mo sya at nararamdaman mong totoo ang pagmamahal na iyon.
Kapag nagmahal ka, matuto kang magpalaya. Matuto kang tumanggap ng mga hindi inaasahang pangyayari. Lahat ng bagay ay nangyayari dahil nakatakda itong mangyari. Hindi natin alam kung bakit pero ito talaga ang katotohanan. Hindi naman laging sang-ayon sa mga gusto mo ang mga dapat na mangyari. Minsan kailangan din nating palayain ang isang taong sobra nating minamahal dahil hindi sa lahat ng panahon, mapapasaya mo sya. Tandaan mo, lagi kang makakasakit kahit hindi mo sinasadya. Kahit ayaw mong masaktan ang mahal mo, masasaktan at masasaktan mo pa rin sya. Yan ang buhay. Deal with it!

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

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Tuesday, November 1, 2011


You know what the best feeling in the world is? Having a best friend, that one person who loves you & never judges you no matter what, and no matter how badly you fuck up. Someone who you have endless conversations with and can communicate by just using your eyes. That one person who just walks in your house, opens the fridge and grabs whatever they want out. Lastly it’s that person who knows so much about you that they could ruin your life in a second. But you trust them with your life and you know that they will never ever do that no matter what.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011


Why do misplaced things appear when not needed? and unseen when you want it the most? simply because you weren't aware of it's value unless you're about to make use of it. Take care of the people you love, not only because you need them but simply  because they are important in your life.